All my life I hoped for you. I prayed for you. I had faith in you. I longed for you.
And one night…I met you.
In all the chaos of my life it took me a while to truly accept.
That you were real.
Funny, smart, loving, caring, full of life, beautiful, and witty.
A soul older than your years.
On that day when you wore the knee length white dress.
You were the most beautiful thing I had ever seen.
All was in sync; life, work, home, health, and happiness till the day which I was forced to make a decision.
It started a spiral.
Through the years we had ups and, many times there were (due to me), failures.
With each failure the spiral grew.
There were joyous times when we welcomed into this world our first, our second…and her.
All healthy. All beautiful. All loved. You carried them and with her…complications.
We had prayed openly and privately for…her.
As a decade passed, due to Rome, God granted our wish.
Within an hour she was confirmed as was confirmation of necessary emergency surgery.
I held your hand and looked into those beautiful eyes and for the first time ever… saw your tears of shock.
We sent our two on the vacation we had planned for a year.
As we wrestled with uncertainty everyday but come November our miracle was born.
Then one night, after I had rocked her and fed her, we came into our room.
And through the black pitch of night all I loved was covered with blood.
As we rushed to the emergency room I prayed and knew it was life and death.
After every hour of delay your color left you along with your strength.
The love of my existence was waning between this world…and the next.
I never felt as powerless. I never asked God for so much. I did all I could.
Then one day you came home.
What they did to you required years of surgery, pain, frustration, and more.
And the spiral grew.
As I had a few years before, with LCPS, I now fought (for 2 years) for your benefits.
I took on this task simply because…it was the right thing to do.
On the fourth month of that last year we were happy and you said it was a “second honeymoon”,
I hadn’t shared with you that something was wrong as I didn’t want to add to your burden.
I went to a specialist with no one knowing. No referrals. Just me and my fears.
As I received the news I cried in public. Something I never did.
The spiral grew.
Pent up frustration and distrust came into our home.
One phone call I placed, which I never should have, changed everything.
The spiral grew,
I thought it could not get worse but then came the tumor and the cancer.
On that ninth month you held my hand and said we would get through this.
I thought about telling you of the other medical news but your beauty gave me pause.
Within ten days of you holding my hand you made two calls that changed all of our lives.
The spiral grew.
Over the following years I battled; cancer, my part in the deterioration, 48 years of regrets, and more.
Through it all I prayed for a day in which we could, together, start the healing process.
That day never came.
The spiral grew.
Solely due to my faith in God I was able to get through the; moment, the hours, the days, and the years.
Over two years ago I took the step that you had asked me to for a year before your two calls.
I have kept that commitment, over these two years, and attend weekly.
The spiral slowed.
Each day I strive to do, and be, better in every way.
I never stopped loving the woman I knew but not the one that made two calls.
Each day I regret, into each cell and into my soul, many choices I made,
Most of all I regret the call I made.
From within, and afar, this spiral covers three states but most of all the lives of our three children.
Only those who made the first call, and the two calls, can stop the spiral.
Either this spiral will stop once and for all or it will continue to cause damages.
Damages that has, and will, continue to hurt all we love.
I will do everything, and anything, to heal those we love all the days of my life.
I pray that the woman I loved, with all my heart will one day share my commitment.
To take the first, of many steps, to truly; love, help, support, etc. our children.
Jeff Schrembs
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