Courtesy of YouTube
Try playing it from the 1:20 minute mark to hear the vocals starting on the song. Man, I used to listen to this on cassette or 45 back in the day over and over. No one had even heard of him or his song but I caught it when scanning my cassette/radio in my car one day and the beat, vocals, and the rawness were worth listening to and I went out and bought the 45, cassette, and album.
Enjoy
Sometimes in life it is not the paths we take that benefits us most but the unexpected detours.
There are many “sayings” that I detest not only because they attempt to take a complicated situation and compress it into a one sentence sermon. Also I have lived through the complicated situations and the one sentence sermons are far from true, accurate, or beneficial. Here are some of my UN-favorites:
Whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger – I’ve been through divorce, custody issues, leaving home at a young age, battling cancer, etc. This saying is flat out nonsense.
If you love it set it free. If it comes back it is meant to be – Well, well, well. This saying came to my attention in the form of a card I received from a relative pertaining to a relationship I had throughout high school. Something about this card, and these words. made my head hurt at the time and it is one of the WORST attempts at advice in the world.
Distance make the heart grow fonder (and some use the word stronger) – Really? Where is the data to back this up? Its a shame that so many of our life experiences have attempted to be summarized, or minimized, by a (no offense to this particular company but it was the first that came to mind) Hallmark card.
Time heals all wounds – AAAGGGGGHHHHHHHHH. If that was the case we would not need emergency rooms, doctors, or even bandaids. Time DOES NOT heal all wounds. Time adds scar tissue to wounds and many wounds can never be healed. I would like to meet the person who came up with this saying and let them know all of the things I have endured that time did not heal nor did time make it better. I hope she, or he, has a free decade to spare because this conversation is gonna be a long one.
Love means never having to say you are sorry? – Though the move Love Story, which was the first time I had ever heard of this expression, is a great movie that is part of the mosaic of my early years this saying is not based in reality. I say that because having to deal with cancer, and all the treatments/complications/setbacks/ordeals/etc, has afforded me (some) time to reflect – to make the best of it – to come to terms with major issues – and, besides the changes I have made, there are many people that I love that I wish I could have conversations with that would include my conveying I am sorry. I wish there was another word that had more depth that “I am sorry”.
A very wise woman once told me that “sorry means nothing if you don’t mean it and make the changes so it never happens again”. Well, I have put in the time, effort, commitment, sacrifices, etc. to make positive changes and whether I ever get the chance to verbally, and face to face, convey my sorrow does not deter me.
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Take care and may God bless you.
Jeff Schrembs
Jeff Schrembs 